Love is a choice

When we fall head over heels in love it's easy to believe that this wonderful,euphoric feeling ll last forever.As everyday life takes over,however,this feeling gets pushed aside.We're then inclined to think that love is fading or that it's disappeared completely.We're left wishing it could return and can feel deprived if it doesn't.Love is a verb,however,not simply an emotion.Compile a list of things that ur partner has to do for u to feel really loved by them.If it helps,list all things that they do to make you feel unloved and then turn them into their positive opposites.Ask urself how likely it is that anyone can do everything on your list for u.Then ask urself whose really responsible for how you feel.You might think that other people are,yet who chooses your thoughts?You do.So why not change ur thoughts?By all means share with ur partner what value you place on urself and,therefore,how you'd like to be treated because u think u deserve it,but then keep your power for u.The minute you tell someone that it's up to the to make u happy or feel loved,you've handed your power to them and lost control.Commit to thinking of one thing every morning that you could do for yourself that day to help u feel more loved and more loving towards urself and to others.And do it!Remember that loving is a verb,not just an emotion.Doing loving things when you dont 'feel' loving s the act of strong and committed person. Explain lovingly how much value u place on ur relationship and it would be even more wonderful if they could reciprocate.

'To Love deeply in one direction makes us more loving in all others.